What are your "legitimate life-threatening" symptoms? Who says they're legitimately life-threatening? If you think they're life-threatening have you consulted a doc?
We all felt bad, Tess. Some of us felt very very very bad. But we soldiered on . . . aching and crying and panicking and vomiting . . . dissociated and depersonalized . . . short of sleep, short of patience, short of hope . . . but we carried on. And finally our tapers were over. Whew. None of us (that I'm aware of) died.
If your s/x are preventing your carrying on with your taper, maybe get them checked out by a doc?
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