Author Topic: Having family over for the first time in three years while in a wave - help  (Read 293 times)

[Buddie]

Hi everyone.

I haven't been on here much until recently because I was doing pretty well for months (driving, stores, walking in parks etc) - until this recent wave started over a month ago. Unfortunately, it has actually gotten worse over the last week.

I have not been able to drive, nor even be a passenger in a car for five days now. I feel too weak and too cruddy. This evening I even felt off balance in the shower. That is something that I have not dealt with in a long time. When I am not driving and having a rough time showering - I feel, well, disabled.

I feel pretty good most of the day. I actually forget I am sick at times and I feel normal, but in the afternoon and evening I start to feel pretty off balance/boaty/equilibrium issues, therefore I am sitting more. Sometimes I get DR. The balance and DR issues have only been happening for about a week.

Anyway, because I was too sick early on in withdrawal, and then because the pandemic arrived when I was 9 months into withdrawal, we have not had guests over. I have visited with neighbors outside and such, but that's it.

Tomorrow my sister and brother in law are coming over to have a nice visit outside. I am looking forward to it. I have tried to set this up before, but I had to cancel because I was too sick. They understand my situation,  that I am not feeling too well as of late and they are being very accommodating to a short visit and if I have to go lay down, they understand.

I don't know how I will feel tomorrow for this, but in my heart I think it will do me some good. I am ticked that this wave is hanging on, but I want to see my family, so I am going to do that, wave or not.

I have had enough of being like this, this long. I am trying to be accepting knowing it will pass. Not always easy.

-Fortitude
« Last Edit: May 15, 2022, 01:14:12 am by [Buddie] »
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[Buddie]

[...], I like your idea of staying committed to this visit with family even if you aren't feeling great.  It takes courage for us to get outside of our comfort zone - kudos to you!  I hope this is a 'next step' in your recovery process.  If you keep your expectations low, you will likely be pleasantly surprised as to how this turns out.  I hope you let us know how it went.    :)
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[Buddie]

You are so right, not everything is easy.

I found myself in a similar situation more than once, when going through this process. In the end, I'm glad I went ahead with the plans, the distraction was beneficial and just trying to engage in some 'real life' activities was actually uplifting.

You'll get through this, but do find time to decompress afterwards. 

[...]  :smitten:
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[Buddie]

Thank you [...] & [...] for your replies  :smitten:
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[Buddie]

You can do it. Son and daughter in law came on Motherís Day end March here, Iíve been pretty crap whole time. Their cellar was flooded so were going stay night then go to her Mumís. Daughter in law ended up with Covid next day, her Mum hadnít had it so ended up staying with us fir 12 days. We all ended up with Covid. Was hard as I had appear ď normalĒ. I managed it fir 12 days, you can do it to. I have often found seeing people can be a real distraction. Go for  it👍
« Last Edit: May 15, 2022, 02:42:17 pm by [Buddie] »
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[Buddie]

Iím saying this from my experience so please take it as you wish. I am at 30 months now. There have been events that I did not want to be part of or was not doing well at all but even though I attended, I struggled. Now as time has past I remember the events and itís part of my memories now. The thing is I donít remember my withdrawal symptoms from the event and I remember it as a positive experience now. Try your best, push through. Show your sister how strong you are. You can do this.  :thumbsup:
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[Buddie]

Thank you everyone for your kind replies. [...], [...], [...], Packy - Thank you for your encouraging words!

The visit with my sister and brother in law yesterday went very well! I DID do better than I expected. I had a few mild symptoms (boatiness feeling/a tad dizzy) but I was so engrossed in the conversation and enjoying myself that I hardly even noticed. They stayed over two hours and I even brought out my tripod and set up a camera for a photo of all of us. I did all of this in the middle of a wave!

Best of all, I know I completed a major milestone here. I feel like I can move back towards normal life more. This is HUGE for me. I relaxed for the remainder of the day and the feeling of accomplishment was so immense. Since I have been in this wave I have been looking for a lot of reassurance, but yesterday I felt so good and positive in the happy afterglow of our visit that I did not want to think about, read about, nor talk about withdrawal or symptoms for the remainder of the day.

It was a great positive distraction and felt like normal life.

Today I thought was going to be a little rough since I did a lot yesterday. The morning was, but I am in a wave. However, the rest of today I was walking around out in the yard getting exercise and doing just fine.

Thanks all :smitten:
- Fortitude
« Last Edit: May 17, 2022, 12:32:18 pm by [Buddie] »
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[Buddie]

Ah [...], this is awesome!  I am so glad you kept your commitment and wound up enjoying your day with family.  You are so right, this will no doubt move your forward in your recovery.

All the best -

[...]    :thumbsup:
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[Buddie]

Glad you coped OK. Glad Iím not only one 3 years off still dealing with this crap, but sorry you are still having problems .Had first window recently now back to feeling crap again. Have trouble believing this will ever end. But well done you.
« Last Edit: May 18, 2022, 10:28:22 am by [Buddie] »
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[Buddie]

Wonderful news!  I'm happy for you, and happy that you feel confident that you can participate in a more full life.  :smitten:
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