OneLady, I had terrible anxiety about tapering off benzos so I do understand where you are with. I wasn't at all convinced I could even get off benzos. But once I did a couple of cuts and found that even though I had some withdrawl symptoms, I could muddle through them, it gave me some hope I could taper off. So what I am say is that getting some momentum up helped me immensely but those beginning days were so anxiety-ridden for me too.
I did not go to a facility for the same reasons [...] said - the thought of being taken off benzos quickly sounded dreadful. I encourage you to try tapering at home for a while and see how it goes. At least then you will have a reference point as to what tapering on you own is like from which to make an semi-informed decision.