Author Topic: NINE Years Out (warning: contents may be triggering for sensitive members)  (Read 7976 times)

[Buddie]

Re: NINE Years Out
« Reply #20 on: January 10, 2018, 02:41:51 pm »
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Ginger speaks her truth. Honor and respect that. It is her story to tell as [...] wishes.

I agree that is is her story to tell and that we ought to respect it - which I do. (pity we have to write that sorta thing out, to bat away the silliness of 'misunderstanding' - but there's 2018 for ya).

However, trying to pretend that this is a Success Story in the accepted, common understanding/sense of what a Success Story is and ought to be, is merely bending the definition of "success" to suit an individual interpretation - which devalues the concept of success, for all, to say the very least.

As others have said, this very broad (and to my mind, unacceptable) interpretation will cause a lot of angst to those in early withdrawal, whose hope for success is clear-cut: consistent freedom from symptoms and a return of all of their own, familiar faculties.

I have to agree with this. Success, like other terms, has come to mean something very specific to this community. If I were to redefine another term, say kindling, because I felt it matched my truth more accurately than the accepted definition, it would cause a lot of confusion and potential anxiety for members.

Getting your life back is huge, and this doesn't take anything away from that accomplishment. But it's not a success story. It's a celebration. And that's still something.
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[Buddie]

Re: NINE Years Out
« Reply #21 on: January 11, 2018, 03:36:02 am »
I think this is DEFINITELY a Success story. Congratulations ginger. Success story means different to all of us. To me, as long as we are happy and enjoy and live a fulfilling life that is success story. Its okay if we still deal with some issues but who isn't, life we have to deal with all issues. It would be so awesome if we 100 percent heal and free of symptoms but I strongly believe even after 9 years, some are still healing. I am almost 19 months out and I feel GREAT, I am more confident, more calm, happier and excited for the opportunity in my life. I think I have really gone better after the 16 months, and continue to be better and recently feeling a more improvement. I still have a few symptoms but they are mild and I am still sensitive with stress and things in life but I am careful and take care of myself and appreciate little things. To me, success doesn't have to be perfect or 100 percent because life is never perfect!

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[Buddie]

Re: NINE Years Out
« Reply #22 on: January 11, 2018, 03:45:24 am »
I also think that what is important is how  ginger define her story as success or not. We need to respect and appreciate that [...] comes back to give hope to people who are struggling.  It's understandable that people in early withdrawal can get misunderstood or triggered but we all need to be responsible for our emotions and we can't control how others feel we can only give support. If people who easily get triggered need to take care of themselves by not reading anything that they feel is triggering them.

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[Buddie]

Re: NINE Years Out
« Reply #23 on: January 11, 2018, 03:01:49 pm »
Congratulations Ginger on your progress,

For us in the middle of the storm it does take away hope for a full recovery, it could be because you focused on the symptoms you have and not the progress you made. Perhaps a re-wording of the post would be a good idea?
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[Buddie]

Re: NINE Years Out
« Reply #24 on: January 11, 2018, 09:56:11 pm »
 I have to agree with [...] once again!! Lol
 I think that everybody has their own way of looking at success. 
Of course itís wonderful Ginger is living her life , happy again,can work out plus hold a job down !!
Those  things are huge and a very huge success to her no doubt !!
But people in the thick of it or early on in their journey, will be pretty freaked out to read this.
I know that when I came to the success boards early on in my withdrawal, and lol that was all day a lot of the time, reading and rereading for Hope.
 I couldnít venture onto ANY of the other boards.
 It was to triggering for me and I just couldnít handle it so I didnít do it. It would've caused me a whole lot of anxiety that I didnít need added on top of my hell.
So therefore my safe place was the success story board. And it was my safe place!!
I feel for the ones that this story scared the crap out of. And want them to remember that EVERYONE is different. Gingers story is just that....,  her story!!
Itís also not likely anyone will end up at 9 years still on this site.
Yeah thereís a few but normally people move on once theyíre well. So remind yourself that your journey will be nothing like gingers!!
Iím very happy that ginger in living life and happy.
And you all will be as well.
 Let your journey and your story unfold the way it supposed too.
We ALL HEAL and are better then even.
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[Buddie]

Re: NINE Years Out
« Reply #25 on: January 11, 2018, 10:51:50 pm »
Thanks so very much Ginger for coming back and sharing your success story, you bet it's a success story, a powerful one, and It's also a testament of sheer courage and strength through many years of adversity. You are indeed one tough chickie!  :thumbsup:

Some years ago I followed your posts and hoped one day you'd return with an update. I thank you for being perfectly honest, it's very appreciated by me and utterly refreshing in its candor. Living your life as fully as you are now is the definition of success as far as I'm concerned! Well done. My very best to you as you continue to live life fully.

 :smitten:
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[Buddie]

Re: NINE Years Out
« Reply #26 on: January 13, 2018, 02:30:46 am »
Ginger I think itís a great story, a testament as to what you endured and the great improvements youíve seen over the years; to the point you can now celebrate living a full life. Being almost 10 years out I can relate.

Some of us might never be 100% symptom free, but still consider ourselves recovered. And although frightening for a lot of people starting this journey, the reality is that a minority of us will suffer protracted withdrawal and/or a recurrence of symptoms.
I think a big part of our definition of success is having withdrawn from these horrible drugs, not gone back on any of them, and somehow survived.
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[Buddie]

Re: NINE Years Out
« Reply #27 on: January 13, 2018, 06:00:25 am »
Sheister m-f'er pill pushing shrink

I have not laughed like this for a long time! Thank you!
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[Buddie]

Re: NINE Years Out
« Reply #28 on: January 14, 2018, 12:36:36 pm »
I wouldnt call this a success story. It is outright scary to be honest. Im already terrified we never really heal 100%

Congratulations on being a badass thou. 9 years living through that torture is amazing. Well done
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[Buddie]

Re: NINE Years Out
« Reply #29 on: January 14, 2018, 01:27:02 pm »
There are people here who have long, torturous, protracted recoveries. Some of us even become literally disabled due to benzo withdrawal (I did, and still am). For those of us who have been unable to work or exercise for years, the idea of one day being able to do so sounds like heaven, even if we never make it to "100% recovered." After a certain point of time and after a certain level of suffering, you stop caring about "100% healing" anyway. Instead, you just want to be able to function in the world again, to work or take walks or socialize, to find some semblance of peace, to be able to say "life is good," even if it isn't even remotely perfect. If these words seem foreign or even scary to you, then you've never reached that point of disability. Be grateful, but please do not disparage others who've had a harder path to walk. Being "100%" is a privilege that not all are afforded in this life.

There is much talk on this forum about protecting those who are newly benzo free from the "horror stories" of protracted withdrawal, so as not to upset them. Unfortunately, no one seems to care about upsetting those who are in protracted withdrawal, who are arguably in a much scarier and more vulnerable position than those who are just starting their recoveries. This story would have upset me too at one point, and I probably would have thought that it "didn't count as success" or even that it shouldn't be posted. But now I see how selfish, arrogant, and naive I would have been to think that. Who do you think needs more hope, someone who is 5 months free with hundreds of success stories to choose from, or someone who is 5 years out with only a handful of success stories that are still relevant?

Thank you Ginger, for coming back to share... your story means a lot to me, and I have hope for your continued healing.
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