Author Topic: Unrelenting Fear  (Read 1715 times)

[Buddie]

Re: Unrelenting Fear
« Reply #10 on: March 16, 2017, 12:12:51 am »
Glad the water helped you!   :)
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[Buddie]

Re: Unrelenting Fear
« Reply #11 on: March 16, 2017, 10:53:11 pm »
Glad the water helped you!   :)


the water and the ph balancer. (and it stills helping me). Here is the constitution:

- Sodium bicarbonate
- Potassium bicarbonate
- Trisodium citrate

send me your feedback
 :thumbsup:
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[Buddie]

Re: Unrelenting Fear
« Reply #12 on: March 29, 2017, 02:17:14 am »
Hi,

I have a lot of fears and doubts too :). I notice lately my fear and intrusive thoughts are better...and i just realize that...it got better because I don't pay much attention to them...I "did not' try to find ways to overcome them...I just gave up on trying because I was exhausted...This may sound weird but I think that what helped me...we just let the thoughts and fear float ...and focus on everyday normal activities...hope it helps...

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[Buddie]

Re: Unrelenting Fear
« Reply #13 on: March 29, 2017, 04:23:17 pm »
Hi,

I have a lot of fears and doubts too :). I notice lately my fear and intrusive thoughts are better...and i just realize that...it got better because I don't pay much attention to them...I "did not' try to find ways to overcome them...I just gave up on trying because I was exhausted...This may sound weird but I think that what helped me...we just let the thoughts and fear float ...and focus on everyday normal activities...hope it helps...

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You began accepting instead of fighting.   :thumbsup: :thumbsup:
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[Buddie]

Re: Unrelenting Fear
« Reply #14 on: March 29, 2017, 05:18:34 pm »
That's wonderful advice [...] and so glad that it is helping you!  I just read the other day that observing fears and negative thoughts but, not thinking about them too much helps lessen their power.  I will try to not pay so much attention to the fears and doubts, too and focus on other things. Thank-you!   :thumbsup:

"You began accepting instead of fighting"- good way to put it [...]!  Acceptance is sooo hard but, it seems like one of the best ways to help us get through this in order to recover.  Also love you post on another thread about feeding the right wolf, too  :)
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[Buddie]

Re: Unrelenting Fear
« Reply #15 on: March 29, 2017, 07:22:20 pm »
Acceptance is hard because we weren't taught to accept.  We were taught to join (which isn't acceptance).  Or we were taught to fight (which also isn't acceptance).  Actually, once you begin to accept, it's pretty easy - it's far easier than fighting or anguishing.  Much less emotional energy is expended.

There is a downside.  The media has spent tons of time and money learning how to manipulate you.  They know your buttons and push them regularly to obtain a calculated response.  When you stop reacting to your pushed buttons, you become much less manipulatable.  But that bad result for the marketing gurus is a good thing for your independence.
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[Buddie]

Re: Unrelenting Fear
« Reply #16 on: April 02, 2017, 10:45:30 pm »
Agreed  :thumbsup:  We need a lot of healthy boundaries and develop a lot of resilience these days for sure!
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[Buddie]

Re: Unrelenting Fear
« Reply #17 on: April 03, 2017, 07:44:21 am »
Acceptance is hard because we weren't taught to accept.  We were taught to join (which isn't acceptance).  Or we were taught to fight (which also isn't acceptance).  Actually, once you begin to accept, it's pretty easy - it's far easier than fighting or anguishing.  Much less emotional energy is expended.

There is a downside.  The media has spent tons of time and money learning how to manipulate you.  They know your buttons and push them regularly to obtain a calculated response.  When you stop reacting to your pushed buttons, you become much less manipulatable.  But that bad result for the marketing gurus is a good thing for your independence.

I have this old psychology book from the 90's that talked about overcoming different "lifetraps". It's a decent although somewhat flawed book. But the authors nailed some of the things. Basically, when people would face the problems that were deeply ingrained in them, they would employ 3 strategies: surrender, escape, or counterattack. Not a single one includes genuine acceptance.

Surrender would generally be kind of giving up and feeling worthless and being aware of it and not doing much about it. Escape was more about denying those feelings whether through natural emotional numbing or through the use of activities, avoidance patterns, psych meds, alcohol, drugs, you name it. The most interesting one was the counterattack where people would go and try to "beat back the fear", but would do it in a way that would be very
costly to them energy-wise.

What the book failed to address, I think is that there could be a mixture of these styles in everyone at different points in their lives. Someone may start counterphobic very young, but end up being [...] and going into escape/surrender patterns later on. Some people may start with surrender/escape, but may realize what's going on and go into a counterattack.

I see benzo use as sort of a surrender/escape pattern, but a decision to break from them is definitely a counterphobic action, which then reveals all our mechanisms of surrender and escape, which triggers more of it. And this is why getting off is so painful. Basically, seeing all the fine-tuned emotional defenses that served us to a point, until they no longer did, which makes us confused, not knowing where to turn....
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[Buddie]

Re: Unrelenting Fear
« Reply #18 on: October 08, 2019, 08:55:08 pm »
Glad the water helped you!   :)


the water and the ph balancer. (and it stills helping me). Here is the constitution:

- Sodium bicarbonate
- Potassium bicarbonate
- Trisodium citrate

send me your feedback
 :thumbsup:

Did you find this ph balancer on the internet?  What are the measurements?
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