7 Habits of People With Remarkable Mental Toughness

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There were some aspects of this article that I felt applied to withdrawal and overcoming obstacles so I wanted to share. I loved #'s 3, 5, and 7. So many people on this forum have these qualities  . If you're going through a difficult time, remember you're stronger than you think!

 

1. Always act as if you are in total control.

There's a quote often credited to Ignatius: "Pray as if God will take care of all; act as if all is up to you." By not wasting mental energy worrying about what might happen to you, you can put all your effort into making things happen.

 

2. Put aside things you have no ability to impact.

Mental strength is like muscle strength--no one has an unlimited supply. So why waste your power on things you can't control? For some people, it's politics. For others, it's family. For others, it's global warming. Whatever it is, you care, and you want others to care. Do what you can do.

 

3. See the past as valuable training and nothing more.

The past is valuable. Learn from your mistakes. Learn from the mistakes of others. Then let it go. Easier said than done? It depends on your perspective. When something bad happens to you, see it as an opportunity to learn something you didn't know. When another person makes a mistake, don't just learn from it--see it as an opportunity to be kind, forgiving, and understanding. The past is just training; it doesn't define you.

 

4. Celebrate the success of others.

Many people--I guarantee you know at least a few--see success as a zero-sum game: There's only so much to go around. When someone else shines, they think that diminishes the light from their stars. Resentment sucks up a massive amount of mental energy--energy better applied elsewhere. When a friend does something awesome, that doesn't preclude you from doing something awesome. In fact, where success is concerned, birds of a feather tend to flock together--so draw your successful friends even closer. Don't resent awesomeness. Create and celebrate awesomeness, wherever you find it, and in time you'll find even more of it in yourself.

 

5. Never allow yourself to whine. (Or complain. Or criticize.)

Your words have power, especially over you. Whining about your problems always makes you feel worse, not better. So if something is wrong, don't waste time complaining. Put that mental energy into making the situation better. (Unless you want to whine about it forever, eventually you'll have to make it better.) So why waste time? Fix it now. Don't talk about what's wrong. Talk about how you'll make things better, even if that conversation is only with yourself.

 

6. Focus only on impressing yourself.

No one likes you for your clothes, your car, your possessions, your title, or your accomplishments. Those are all things. People may like your things--but that doesn't mean they like you. (Sure, superficially they might seem to like you, but what's superficial is also insubstantial, and a relationship not based on substance is not a real relationship.) Genuine relationships make you happier, and you'll only form genuine relationships when you stop trying to impress and start trying to just be yourself.

 

7. Count your blessings.

Take a second every night before you turn out the light and, in that moment, quit worrying about what you don't have. Quit worrying about what others have that you don't. Think about what you do have. You have a lot to be thankful for. Feels pretty good, doesn't it? Feeling better about yourself is the best way of all to recharge your mental batteries.

 

Full article: http://www.inc.com/jeff-haden/7-habits-of-people-with-remarkable-mental-toughness.html

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Thanks this was great.

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Thank you for this post!  It is excellent!

 

 

Lily

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Thanks, Courtney.

 

Most of them apply to me except 1 & 5.

 

Definitely not in control here and

 

A good moan is essential therapy. 

 

Cheers

 

LF

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Thank you for posting this! All are excellent ideas. Maybe not always easy to do, but so worth trying.

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Thank you! I needed to read that today!

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Thank you, great post:)

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Awesome post!

 

I need to practice this attitude throughout my life.

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Excellent post!

 

Thank you!

 

Ins

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Thank you,

Really opened my eyes...

 

Rose

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Thanks Courtney,

Need to post these on my refrigerator

 

Love, Collene

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Wow!! I love this

 

I'm going to bookmark it now 

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Thanks for the post! 

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Thank you, great to read as we turn the page into a new year..

 

Rose

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Sage Advice.