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[Buddie]

ANXIETY SO HIGH AND SWEATY PALMS TOO?????? HELP
« on: December 29, 2008, 07:00:12 pm »
Good afternoon:


Husband is saying that his anxiety is soo bad when he goes out he has sweaty palms with the extremely bad tension headaches he wants to kill himself and that I his wife is like Hitler b/c I am keeping him from getting an MRI/CAT scan on the brain. I am not keeping him I just know him and he entered the ER 2xs for "stomach cancer" and magically there was nothing wrong with him felt better after the Ativan drip (magically) ....can these withdrawals make you this insane? You feel like you are losing your mind?????? :( :( :(

PS on and off A/D for 18 years of his life and now off everything except trazadone to sleep at night...do w/d from all these a/d's that were given back 2 back with out breaks and detox of benzos bug you out this bad??


He was treated at 17 yrs old for "depression" and has been given a/d all sorts until now, currently 34 yrs old...



sorry rambling...please just help me understand :'( :'( :'( :'( :'( :'(
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[Buddie]

Re: ANXIETY SO HIGH AND SWEATY PALMS TOO?????? HELP
« Reply #1 on: December 29, 2008, 07:16:19 pm »
Hi teacher,

Yes, these drugs make you feel like you are absolutely crazy.  You think everything in the world is wrong with you, why else you feel so horrible?  And horrible doesn't even begin to describe it.

I think it's impossible for anyone to understand all this.  Even the people going through it don't really understand it.  It's different for everyone but yet the same.  Now, does that makes sense?  :) 

I've been where your husband is but without the help of a forum.  I thought I was dying and no one knew why.  Deep down I knew it was the drugs so that's why I ct.

One thing that is worst through all this is that there's really nothing that can help except time.  It's a slow walk through hell.   But, in the end, it's worth it to be free from the grip of these drugs.
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[Buddie]

Re: ANXIETY SO HIGH AND SWEATY PALMS TOO?????? HELP
« Reply #2 on: December 29, 2008, 08:59:34 pm »
He sure can feel like that and worse. I've been there for six months and let me tell you, it's no picnic for you, but it's like being pushed through the door to oblivion and thrust into HELL for him.

Why do you put depression in quotes? It can be a clinical disorder and was part of my original diagnosis. I was diagnosed at 14 year old and am 35 now, so I can tell you that it is very real and very horrible when left untreated. Depression and anxiety go hand in hand, as well, so it's a double whammy of suckiness. Add in the w/d and it's going to be pure Hell. You need to understand that he is going through what is easily one of the worst things a human being is forced to endure - pure mental torture.

The only thing that will work here is time. If his disorder is coming out, then he needs something to get him through and then he will want to consider CBT or some other form of therapy, but it's all going to take time and lots of it.

-Pete
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Re: ANXIETY SO HIGH AND SWEATY PALMS TOO?????? HELP
« Reply #3 on: December 29, 2008, 09:17:57 pm »
Good afternoon:


Husband is saying that his anxiety is soo bad when he goes out he has sweaty palms with the extremely bad tension headaches he wants to kill himself and that I his wife is like Hitler b/c I am keeping him from getting an MRI/CAT scan on the brain. I am not keeping him I just know him and he entered the ER 2xs for "stomach cancer" and magically there was nothing wrong with him felt better after the Ativan drip (magically) ....can these withdrawals make you this insane? You feel like you are losing your mind?????? :( :( :(

PS on and off A/D for 18 years of his life and now off everything except trazadone to sleep at night...do w/d from all these a/d's that were given back 2 back with out breaks and detox of benzos bug you out this bad??


He was treated at 17 yrs old for "depression" and has been given a/d all sorts until now, currently 34 yrs old...



sorry rambling...please just help me understand :'( :'( :'( :'( :'( :'(

Hi Teacher!  :)

I tapered off of Klonopin. My reply is YES, you can feel this bad. You DO feel like you are losing your mind. It is agony both with physical symptoms, and mental symptoms. Your thoughts are affected, your very thinking patterns, even your dreams. Feelings will be ultra magnified for him, as well. Any fears, anxiety, anger, depression, sadness...you name it, can be "through the roof" for the person going through this. Mine were. It is without a doubt the very worst thing I have ever been through in my entire life. I went through a bad divorce, and that divorce was like a vacation, compared to what I went through getting off the benzos.

I know it is very, very hard for you, as well, and frightening. All you can do is what you are doing, reading up on it, and then of course be there for him, even if he says things that don't seem to make sense, or that hurt you. Try to remember that he will also feel alienated in a way he's probably never felt in his life. I know that I felt more alone than I ever have. He may feel that others not only do not understand, but that they don't care. I know you DO care, but when you are feeling what he is...it can truly feel like others do not really care about you or what you are going through. Remember, his feelings and thoughts are all over the place right now. To me, I just called it "off kilter". My thoughts and feelings seemed "out of whack". It was very frightening.

Time will heal this, though. It's horrible, yes, but he will get through it. It just takes time to heal.  :thumbsup:

 
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[Buddie]

Re: ANXIETY SO HIGH AND SWEATY PALMS TOO?????? HELP
« Reply #4 on: December 30, 2008, 02:11:20 am »
Hi Teacher,

I too am the wife of someone going thru benzo w/d.  While he does not have all the systems your husband has and absolutely hates hospitals, he has felt like killing himself, wishing he didnt exist, telling me I'm doing something wrong, etc...I am also a nurse and the line between healthcare prof and wife often blur and drive me crazy.  It makes me feel inadequate as both. My husband has agoraphobia so bad he hasn't left the house in months.

Most of these type of meds  your husband may have been on need to be tapered. Most MD's just put you on and then just take you off and say that it will be OK.  Was he tapered off the medications?

Make sure you make time for you because  you will be no help to him if you get sick or burnt out :smitten:
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Re: ANXIETY SO HIGH AND SWEATY PALMS TOO?????? HELP
« Reply #5 on: December 30, 2008, 05:11:43 am »
Hi Teacher,

I've been off benzo's for a couple of years and what your husband is experiencing is normal for someone going through withdrawals. IMO about all he can do is talk himself down and reassure himself that what he's experiencing is being brought on by extremely high levels of anxiety and that his heath will improve in time. While it's important for him to have moral support from you I feel he needs to dig way down deep and find the strength from within himself to over come this.

Also, tell him he needs to be on a strict diet staying away from foods that can increase his withdrawal symptoms, everyone reacts differently so if he notices that he feels worst after eating/drinking a certain food or beverage it would be best if he stayed away from it. If I eat spicy foods or drink diet sodas (aspartame) it's guaranteed I'm going to feel worst.

Best of luck
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Re: ANXIETY SO HIGH AND SWEATY PALMS TOO?????? HELP
« Reply #6 on: December 30, 2008, 12:36:46 pm »
Hi Teacher,

All I can say is that what has just been written is what many members have/are going through.  I, too, went to hell and back but I am here to tell you that my life is back on track after tapering from Xanax 4 1/2 months ago.  Time and positive thinking will get your hubby through this.

[...]  xo
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Re: ANXIETY SO HIGH AND SWEATY PALMS TOO?????? HELP
« Reply #7 on: December 30, 2008, 08:27:03 pm »
Hi everyone:


Thank you for being so supportive with your kind words. I feel like I can connect to this board better than the doctors who think we are both crazy. Him for feeling and me for believing.  Anyway, my husband has not been tapered off a/d properly. He has been given them back 2 back in at least the 5 years I have been around. I have a feeling that one brings a side effect, they provide a new pill, another side effect, and a vicious cycle. He just doesn't know if its him not reacting well or if its a the side effect.

Tomorrow we go back to the Dr. She is on the fence of whether or not its benzo withdrawal. He was on cymbalta, which made him speedy, like cocaine.  Tapered cymbalta by 40mg, 20mg, could not do less b/c it was a capsule.


But what makes it harder is that my husband has always had an underlying condition years and years before benzos, so this experience is even more horrific. We are just trying figure out if its depression and/or anxiety!!


Thanks ...any advice, criticism, commens would be greatly appreciated!! ;) ;)
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Re: ANXIETY SO HIGH AND SWEATY PALMS TOO?????? HELP
« Reply #8 on: December 30, 2008, 08:42:17 pm »



Thank you for being so supportive with your kind words. I feel like I can connect to this board better than the doctors who think we are both crazy. Him for feeling and me for believing.  Anyway, my husband has not been tapered off a/d properly. He has been given them back 2 back in at least the 5 years I have been around. I have a feeling that one brings a side effect, they provide a new pill, another side effect, and a vicious cycle. He just doesn't know if its him not reacting well or if its a the side effect.

Tomorrow we go back to the Dr. She is on the fence of whether or not its benzo withdrawal. He was on cymbalta, which made him speedy, like cocaine.  Tapered cymbalta by 40mg, 20mg, could not do less b/c it was a capsule.


But what makes it harder is that my husband has always had an underlying condition years and years before benzos, so this experience is even more horrific. We are just trying figure out if its depression and/or anxiety!!


Thanks ...any advice, criticism, commens would be greatly appreciated!! wink wink
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Re: ANXIETY SO HIGH AND SWEATY PALMS TOO?????? HELP
« Reply #9 on: December 30, 2008, 08:43:22 pm »
Yes it can be hard to decypher what's your husband and what are the med s/e.  Unfortuneatley sometimes it takes a drug "holiday" to determine.  That means tapering off and starting anew.   There are pros and cons.    As an RN i always try to blend east with west.   Things like acupunture and shiatsu are aimed at the underlying reason (sometimes not even known to you) instead of the straight up bandaid approach.   And becuz they do go after the underlying cause, they can take longer to work than a med but you got to think of the bigger picture.   I am in so way saying stop all meds but rather work with the MD and add in other modalities.

I was abused as a child and it shaped who I was in my adult life - ever the wall flower.  But I worked hard tried everything - thre out what didn't work and stuck with what I did like and finally uncovered some truths and the other truths?  I simply massaged, acupunctured my way out.  I believe it was the combo and my willingness to work hard that finally brought me FREEDOM..    Now I am watching my husband go thru it.   Its slow progress but its worth it.  
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