I’m delighted to learn that my words gave you some measure of encouragement. I know how discouraging and dispiriting benzodiazepine discontinuation can be for both the person experiencing it as well as those who love them. I also am certain that your wife recognizes and is deeply grateful for your help and support. She is just too over-whelmed by her withdrawal symptoms to express this to you at this time.
I am not a pharmacologist but my understanding is the tapering strategy proposed by the neurologist is problematic because it causes drug serum levels to fluctuate more widely than taking the same amount of drug each day. My further understanding is that consistency in serum levels (i.e. keeping levels as steady as possible) is preferred during discontinuation. (At this time, I personally am unaware of any credible clinical or experimental evidence to support the claim that the neurologist’s strategy increases the risk of kindling.)
I’m sorry your wife is experiencing an uptick in symptoms after switching to the DIY liquid. Some members have issues with liquids whereas others do not. Options to consider include (1) return to the starting dose of 0.25mg and hold at that dose for a week or so in hope that symptoms will settle down, (2) titrate the dose upwards slightly to see if that helps, (3) use a combination of solid and liquid dosage forms (e.g. a 0.125mg orally disintegrating tablet plus 0.125mg in liquid form, reduce the liquid portion to 0.0mg then taper the remaining 0.125mg in liquid form), and (4) trial a different liquid (e.g. a professionally compounded oral suspension or a DIY milk-based liquid).
I’ll close by sharing a common misconception — that is, the only way to ‘microtaper’ (i.e. make ‘small enough’ reductions in dose) is on a daily basis. This is not the case. We have members who make small reductions every other day, every third day, every week, every other week, etc. We also have members who make a series of small daily reductions followed by a hold. (When using a fixed-amount reduction strategy, adjusting the taper interval allows the individual to keep the overall taper rate within a tolerable range.)